Flight, Fight, Freeze and ....... Fawn. When startled we naturally react with one of these, just like a kick reflect to a patella tendon hammer. Here is video I made for my BYUI class.
Monitor or Director
We each have a autonomic nervous system that is always monitoring our progress towards goals, safety. It is directing if we are using the Gas or Brake pedal. We are always in a forward, or away neurological state. During the time of transaction we can be in neutral. Our monitor is constantly watching the following four states.
Somatic
Emotional
Cognitive
Spiritual
Monitor each area: spiritual, somatic, emotional, and cognitive. Is it protective, negative, critical? Is it uplifting, encouraging, and motivating? Practice giving it the monitor a direction to go.